So at the beginning of last year I made some resolutions… well not so much resolutions but goals (New Year’s resolutions tend to last only a few hours-days so I don’t do that…)
The …umm.. goals:
- To cut down on Facebook usage.
- Wish a ‘Happy Birthday’ personally not using Facebook.
- Not to sit reading ‘Newfeeds’.
- Not to post when I’m going to the toilet, or blowing my nose.
- To cut down on helping others before looking after myself.
- In past years I have run myself to the point of getting sick taking photos, helping people out, etc.
- This year only doing stuff for people that look after me and are concerned with my health.
- To allow people to join me in my life (share my life) rather than follow everyone else in theirs.
- To treat everyone with the respect and attitude that they treat me (for better or for worse.)
- To cut down the amount of time that I work (for my employer) to something closer to resembling the actual times/hours I am supposed to work (using the hours to look after my family and friends.)
So how did it all go? Well a mix of both success and failure, the easier ones were a complete success, the more difficult and controversial not so much. ie Facebook a no brainer, some took offence, some didn’t realise, some followed suit. Some people treated me with complete disrespect and bad (awful) attitude, but I couldn’t bring myself to return the feelings no matter how much I wanted to.
2015 In Review…
The beginning of the year began with a proposal just a few seconds into the new year… I tried to make it the stroke of midnight but this in reality was never going to happen, so it happened with the first minute of the new year. This I think is how everyone should start a new year… Not a proposal of marriage, but to start it with a happy note: Start in the way which you intend on going on.
I find in my life that no matter how hard you will try to keep everything on a positive note, there will always be those who try and spoil things, there will always be a negative, 2015 was no different. Within a few weeks we (Gabie and I) lost a bunch of friends. Some closer than others. Some didn’t like the fact we were getting married. Some didn’t like to see us happy. Some people just have to ensure everyone else is as miserable as they are in their lives. Some people are just unfathomable and are just better left to wallow in their own self pity. The result was after a great deal of stress and angst Gabie changed jobs to avoid someone who was poisonous in our lives, not to forget she hated the job.
After that little upset was dealt with, Gabie set her heart, with my full support, on pursuing an ambition of hers… To teach again. For this she needed a TELT (Test for English Language Teachers) course to begin the process and in February she took the course, she thoroughly enjoyed it, at least until the exam and the early start preceded by an anxious and therefore sleepless night. We found later, as I expected, she had passed it. We booked the TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language) course so that she may continue with the dream.
Easter was the next point in the year when things happened and fortunately it was also good. We headed to the UK to visit my family, first my mother in Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, then later my brother and his family in Mirfield, Leeds. My sister came for Easter Sunday dinner with Mum so Gabie got to meet her then.
The Easter trip was a really good one as we found a great hotel, the Holiday Inn, Leeds-Brighouse… definitely on the list of places to stay! (In fact we went back there at Christmas 2015 – more on that later.)
Next event was Gabie’s course, the May 2015 TEFL course and the resulting certificate (for those successful.) A potentially stressful time, but with the exception of Wedding plans I had managed to remove as many as possible sources of stress for Gabie, and this paid off as she also aced the course and got her certificate.
You’ll note at this point I haven’t mentioned a lot about me or what I have done, well that’s because there is not a lot to tell. After a number of court events the case against the bouncers that had attacked me was dropped because I couldn’t identify him as the attacker (when you’re attacked from behind and kicked in the back of the head it’s a tad difficult to identify the attacker) and it was obvious that he had friends as none of the witnesses – even the police witness – stepped up to identify him and the CCTV footage was mysteriously absent… apparently for the hour when the attack happened… apparently the system malfunctioned… as is often observed when its the staff being prosecuted.
On the work side of things I was not following my goal and was doing many many hours fighting to get things working correctly at the OS level, leaving me to blog a warning about FreeBSD particularly for production use…
So towards the end of May we had good news and bad news in the papers, first was Ireland who became the first country to approve same sex marriage by popular vote. The local papers reported on the problems in Swieqi started happening again, this time not only vandalism but also thieves… and again it was my CCTV video that resulted in the capture… Much to the annoyance of some people, but the residents were very happy which is all that matters.
July would mark one of my few photographic events of the year where I covered XMA 2015, it also marked the ‘full steam ahead’ on the wedding plans. It also made for a trip to Edinburgh, Scotland to visit the good people from ‘Your GP‘ who wrote medical reports that resulted (eventually) in me obtaining my GRC (Gender Recognition Certificate) which also gave me my new Birth Certificate…. all of which was a pre-requisit to getting approved for marriage in Malta.
August went with a blur, and was marred by an insult or two. Won’t go into the details of who here, but suffice it to say, if you’re invited to someone’s Wedding it is polite to either attend or at least say that you can’t. Similarly if you’re invited to a stag or hen night and you don’t want to deliver one of the biggest insults in Malta, you tell people you can’t make it, you don’t just not show up. Lastly for the wedding you don’t tell people you never received the invite “a week before and it was too late” if you’re going to show it to other people who might actually tell the happy couple two-three weeks before!!! Weddings in Malta are a personal thing and the bride side of the event is very very personal.
So September and the wedding itself, well what more is there to say…?
Well quite a lot, but not for this post. Things didn’t go according to our desire, but according to the wedding planners design, despite our being quite specific. The important thing though was we got married, and most of those people important to us were there to witness it.
Our honeymoon took us to Iceland, mainly chosen as a location as its spectacular and very difficult/expensive to get to if you live in Australia.
Iceland was rather different and brought some disappointments, it was very expensive for a lot less… especially considering it is ‘part of Europe’ .. the year before I spent less money on our holiday for more days in the Seychelles than our fleeting visit to Iceland where we seemed to spend all the time driving from place to place. What topped off the whole experience was getting back to Malta and having Europcar Iceland try and accuse us of putting a massive dent in the roof of the car and try to charge us an addition €3500 to have it repaired….! Worst part of the whole ordeal is that we had already read about various rental companies trying this on in Iceland, so we went with Europcar because we figured “Big well known name, will be reputable” … how wrong we were. Result was we informed the bank they had no permission to make such a withdrawal and told them to take us to court. They no doubt figured with me having photos of the vehicle before and after they would end up with a fraud charge in court and I haven’t heard from them since. My advice in all such cases, always get evidence, and always stand your ground. In most countries if you are innocent you can claim all costs associated with a lawsuit (legal fees, flights, hotels etc)…
So skipping to Christmas 2015, for the first time in many years, I did not put up the Christmas decorations, we knew we were going away and the house was a bit of a mess with everything that has been going on renovations wise so figured ‘why bother’. That said, lights went up on the outside of the house, though in a diminished set.
So at the end of 2015, despite haven attended court several times against both defendants, “Sean Borg” and “Xelinu” nothing has progressed, every time the case has been adjourned, quite literally. So I am no further forward in reclaiming either my truck or bike, though I have a new lawyer on the team. For those who have forgotten what this is about… A previous blog entry…
The ARMS saga is still going on, they finally just 3-4 weeks before our wedding decided they want to talk to me about the rates. They had to wait until I got back from honeymoon as I was way too busy to deal, and they agreed I should be on commercial rate but insisted only from the point of the March 2012 telephone call… some 18 months (and €15,000 later.) They have told me that if I supply paperwork on older forms than I have currently found then they will reconsider… I have so far found 8 forms of various different revisions (though plenty from 2011 and 2013) .. and have 3 more boxes of paperwork to review. The problem being there, is that there is half a tonne of concrete slabs in front of the boxes which was supposed to have been removed already.. didn’t stop them threatening to cut the power over Christmas, or adding nearly €300 in ‘other charges’ which in the fine print was for ‘legal services’… next thing for me is to charge them for the legal services relating to the fact they *still* are billing me on the incorrect rate and charging me interest on the invalid bill, and without a credit contract or credit control…. and they have the audacity to threaten me when they are illegally charging fees against an account they have failed to bill. (Note: a judge confirmed my case as stated in December 2013, they are trying to negotiate a change to that judgement.)
Anyhow so there you go 2015 in a nutshell, the only thing I haven’t covered is I’ve changed from doing 70(ish) hours per week for my employer to more like 45 hours per week this has had a *massive* difference… nothing new has been developed by me, my paperwork has been done when other things have gone the wayside, and visa versa. Finally with all the failures of the network most of the time I have had has been wasted trying to fix other peoples’ problems just so I can actually do my job. Good job the service I am responsible for is in my control and not the control of others or the entire service would be long dead and gone by now.