Well unfortunately that was the reaction of my good friend Jim from work, he did later apologise for the remark. He didn’t offend, and realized the mistake either by my face, or by the realization. It was quite amusing in some ways, and disappointing in others. Guess I really should explain that comment, but I can’t, so I won’t try.
He did admit later, “I’d have never guessed”, and of course I wouldn’t have expected him to.
The day today was very busy, the little time I got to chat was short and productive, I look forward to talking to him later, specifically as he commented a level of experience in such matters. The friend to friend comments and small chat were interesting, he made the same comment I have done previously…. “The majority of problems seem to relate to the use of toilets.” What a way to start a comment, eh? The trick is I know what he means, and I suppose that I should really explain how I feel about it all.
I will dress as I deem appropriate, and within dress code for work. Whilst I continue to be dressed male I will use the male toilets. At the point in time that I turn up for work in a skirt, whether it be subtle or part of a suite, I will use the womens toilets. I don’t expect it any other way, and I would be offended if others suggested that I should use one or the other or neither. People I think fear the unknown, and to them I am the unknown. Prejudice arises from fears, and that leads to another world of pain for all involved.
Please remember people, we are all human, just because someone wants to be a member of the opposite sex it does not mean they are any different to you. You might want a tattoo, or a belly piercing, others will not. It does not mean there is anything wrong with you or those other people, and on the same thought there is nothing wrong with me. Consider, if you will, a tattoo is for life and it is nothing that should be done on a whim. You should choose a tattoo that you like and that you want because you have to live with it for life. I have made the choice of a lifestyle as a member of the opposite sex, and believe me when I say, it is not something I have done lightly. I implore you to not even begin to think you know what I have had to put myself through unless you too have thought about changing sex, you really don’t and cannot understand.
Jim, I know you’ll read this, your face was a picture, and you didn’t offend me with the first comment, don’t worry. I guess I should have been a little more direct at first rather than pointing you to this site, but hey, it worked for Shawn.